Family circumstances Broken Home
Not escape from the fact that there is that increasingly more families experiencing broken home. Beberapakasus of which may be caused by infidelity, the difference in the life principle, or any other cause that may be caused by internal and external problems from both sides. However, a clear case of a broken home it was the same case with other social cases, the nature multifaktoral. One thing is certain, the interpersonal relationship between husband istridalam broken home has worsened. Physical closeness is also a reason for married couples in addressing the problem of a broken home, although in some sources said that physical proximity does not affect the personal relationship between individuals. The essence of everything is good communication antarpasangan. In this communication, various psychological factors contained therein, may be deserving of major concern.
The worsening of the communication between husband and wife is often a major trigger in a broken home. Therefore, it is essential mutual trust, mutual open, and salingsuka between the two parties so that effective communication occurs. In these circumstances, the maturity kepribadianlah to determining the role of partner communication. Every individual is born with a personality type that is different and therefore the mutual understanding between partners is also very important.
In a broken home family atmosphere not only communication deteriorating, but there are also aspects that are not relevant in the relationship, thus causing a reduction of interest between themselves partners. The weakness of this interest could have an impact on social neglect includes abandonment affective. In this case, it can be described that in families broken home between spouses weakening rasasaling assess positively, which occurred assessment be negative trend between the couples with their partner.
From all of the above phenomenon, could have an impact on psychological development of children in the family. Remajalah which in this case is very vulnerable. Adolescence, as claimed by Erickson that adolescence is the search for identity. The influence of negative factors menjadifaktor family brokenhome in the discovery of a healthy identity, so that teens tend to have phase identity confusion. The development can also experience hambatan.Hal affection is due to the neglect of his parents. Furthermore, terdapatsifat-inhibiting properties of healthy personality development embodied in the personality of the child.
Father, mother, and child is the nuclear family is the smallest organization in social life. In essence, the family is the first and primary container for the development and growth of children. In the family, children will get an education first of the various orders of life in society. It is the family that will introduce children to religious rules, ethical manners, social rules, and the rules are not written more are expected to be the cornerstone of a child's personality in the face of the neighborhood. Families also will be the biggest motivator is relentless when children need support in life.
However, look at the current state of society, family functioning has begun shifting its existence. All the family members, especially parents become preoccupied with his work activity with a reason to provide for the family. The role of the father as the head of the family becomes vague existence, because often the father of today work outside kotadan only return once a week or go early and come home late at malam.Ibulah which replaces the role of fathers in the home to educate and regulate all the interests of family members.
The problem will be growing when ibupun be a working woman with a switch family income or ambition to be a career woman, so forget about the children and their families. Many found the mother to be a superwoman who work twenty-four hours a day without stopping, perhaps breaks the mother only a few hours a day. And that's if the mother is able to intelligently manage waktubekerja outside the home and work in the household. When the father and mother respectively sibukdengan activities, then where are their children? Yangseharusnya child has the right to get warmth in his family.
The trend is happening, the family becomes broken and unclear whereabouts. When the father and mother had tidakdapat communicate well, because of busy each or karenaegonya, then they choose to divorce. However, when parents can keep their families intact with no warm communication between family members, psychologically they also divorced.
Therefore, parents do not have waktubanyak to dialogue, discuss, or even just for mutual bertegursapa. When the parents return to work, the child is asleep with the child woke dansaat lelapnya not infrequently the parents had gone to work or children who have to go to school. When the boy protested and complained, the parents are just enough to give the sense that the father and mother work for the benefit anakdan family too. Parents today often find it difficult to understand his desire, without them knowing that the parents who always makes the child must understand the circumstances of their parents.
Kids are not the only child of a broken home who came from his father and mother divorced, but children who come from families that are not intact, where his father and mother can not be the role and function as actual parents. Can not be denied that the economy needs more and more difficult to make everyone work harder and harder to meet the needs of family life. However, parents often do not realize the psychological needs of children is as important as life memenuhikebutuhan. Children need affection in the form of attention, touch, warning and guidance of his father and mother, not only from his nanny or grandmother grandfather.
The necessary attention of children from their parents is cherished with a vengeance in the form of direct verbal communication with the child, even if only to ask for their daily activities. Asking his school, his friends, his teachers, his toys, his joy, his hobbies, aspirations and desires. There was a kid in school that felt strange, jikatemannya get such attention from their parents, because zamansekarang it becomes very expensive and not all children get it.
Children are particularly in need of a touch from their parents, in the form of hearts in the form of a touch of empathy and sympathy untukmembuat children become sensitive to their environment. Additionally, caresses, hugs, kisses, kisses, and smiles necessary to make dalamdiri soul warmth and help children in mastering his emotions.
Referral needed by children untukmemberikan understanding that in society there is an unwritten rule that must be obeyed and called the norms of society. Religious norms, normasosial, customs or cultural norms and legal norms should be given to anaksejak still small age. Given the understanding of the age sedinimungkin, expected that children can become good citizens, specifically aat children begin to recognize the environment in addition to the family.
If a child violates these norms, it is the duty of parents as the first educators for children accompanied anaknyauntuk give warning logical explanation accordance with the development of age so that children know and understand how to act and behave in accordance with the norms of society.
The impact of selfishness and busyness of parents and lack of time for the child to give kebutuhannyamenjadikan child has the character of a temper (sensitive), less konsentrasibelajar, do not care about the environment and each other, do not be polite, do not know the social etiquette, irritable and quick to take offense, fun looking for attention, to be selfish, unruly, wayward parents, do not have a purpose in life, and lack of perseverance.